cynical

There are times when I tell jokes and I don´t even think about other people´s feelings or I am just too cynical for some people.

Yesterday Sam asks our teacher, "What´s the word for single guy?"
Carlos replies, "Soltero. And then there´s a word for a guy who´s married."
I say, "Si. Victimo" (Victim) AS A JOKE.
Carlos laughs, says how married life is good and that everyone should get married because your spouse will make catcalls at you all day. (So adorable!)

Cool right?

I get home from class and get a phone call from Sam.
Sam, "Kathryn, I want to talk about the situation in class today. How do you feel about Sam´s presence in class?" (And yes, he referred to himself in the 3rd person.)
K, "I don´t know what you´re talking about."
Sam, "Why did you call me a victim in class today? Were you making fun of me?"
K, "What? No. I was just telling a joke. I was just teasing about marriage." Then I explain the situation from my point of view.
Sam, "Well, I thought you were making fun of me and that´s why I was in a bad mood during class this afternoon." (Yeah you were! He was slamming books, sighing loudly in class, and acting impatient when I was talking.)
K, "I´m really sorry about the misunderstanding. I´ll try to watch my mouth from now on."
Sam, "Well, I have to go." And then hangs up!

Should I feel guilty for making a joke? Should I be the one to walk on eggshells in class for him? I know that I should be more aware of other people´s feelings but at the same time, should I be babying Sam? Because other people in site are going to make jokes and say things, and if he takes them the wrong way, he´s going to be really frustrated for 2 years.

Plus, he didn´t accept my apology or apologize for being kind of a jerkface in class.

My friend in the same class says, "You shouldn´t have even apologized. He´s been babied too long and he needs to develop a thick skin. I´m so sick of things always going his way in class. You should be MORE open in class. Forget him."

That made me feel much better.

There are about 7 days left of Spanish classes.
To be continued....